Due to popular demand, we are extending our original Social & Relationship Skills training to our member associations in Korea, Japan and Singapore. As always, the coursework will be led by Neil Parson who is contactable at firstname.lastname@example.org – please allow up to 72 hours for reply.
The second installment of this popular training will be conducted by our partners from the OctoberManSequence.org Relationship Consultants (http://octobermansequence.org), Richard May and Kim Jung Hyew – both experienced dating coaches hailing from New York City. We have asked Richard to contribute some thoughts on the coursework and he gracefully contributed the following content – the coursework will adapt the same style and tone as you will find out in March.
The Deadliest Dating Sin – Boredom!
Boredom is the worst enemy in dating. This is a pretty challenging situation especially that most girls easily get bored. Before we get caught up in the middle of boredom, we must avoid it as much as possible. However, no matter how much we try to avoid it, sometimes, it just keeps coming back. So here are some ways to get rid of boredom and have a perfectly enjoyable dating. You will find more ways in the actual OneWorld training, but here are some pointers to get you started.
- Do the Basic Research
Before you go on a date, try to know the potential places for dating near your area. Inquire about fun activities that are incoming and try to stay updated. For example, you may want to take note of some good-for-dating annual activities near your area and try to check out some bars or restaurants that will hold an event that is out of the ordinary. That way, you will have a taste of an extraordinary ambiance during a date. A good resource on researching for a place for a romantic night out is http://sonicseduction.net – go look at it. I like it a lot.
- Know Her Taste and Style of Things
Girls have different preferences of enjoying a company. Some would love to rock with music bands, some would prefer a cozy romantic dinner, and some sporty chicks, billiards or darts will do. However, some may not like drinking alcoholic beverages or they may not like noisy places. Hence, it is important to take note of their likes and dislikes in order to prepare yourself of some back up plans just in case your first plan fails and your worst enemy, boredom, starts to strike.
- Try Group Dating
If your girl is quite uneasy or if it shows that she is uncomfortable with just-you-and-her kind of dating, then you may try dating as a group. It is never boring to be with more people around especially if these people are mostly extroverts. But of course, this kind of dating needs careful planning and organizing—a big effort on your part. If everything is worth the effort, then it’s never bad to try. Plus, the effort in itself will turn her on and make her go crazier about you. So invite some of your friends and her friends too to have a group date and let them be your guests. Here’s a good resource on group dating online.
- Be Funny
When all else fails, your only best friend in a date that is already getting boring is your sense of humour. While some guys are quite gifted with making funny conversations and you are not, you may want to prepare some good jokes beforehand. Ask help from your funny friends or try to imitate old jokes. Just try not to make it too trying hard on your part. Girls laugh more easily and more naturally from a spontaneously made joke. If your joke fails to make her laugh, nice try but what matters is being yourself. That way, most girls will sense that you are really trying and they would also try to help get rid of boredom.
Getting away from boredom can be quite a challenge but if two people can play the game, then it can be less difficult to overcome. You will always get to a point of boredom when you’re dating but the important thing is that you respect each other and that in itself would be enough to keep the dating going.
If you need more tips in the meantime on how to win a girl’s heart then go to http://octobermansequence.org/how-to-win-a-girls-heart/ – otherwise just wait for the training in March.